In each episode of The Going Scared Podcast, Jessica walks you through what it looks like to move through your fears toward a life of impact and meaning. Join Jessica and change-makers from around the world and from your backyard for a bi-weekly conversation that will motivate and encourage you. Ready to make your move?
Why is it that we’re so often able to show wells of compassion for other people, but can rarely find it for ourselves? In today’s episode, Dr. Kristin Neff will help us answer this question. Kristin is widely recognized as one of the world’s leading experts on self-compassion, being the first one to operationally define and measure the construct over a decade ago. She is currently an Associate Professor at the University of Texas at Austin and examines why we take this less-than-kind approach with ourselves, and how we basically respond with a “fight or flight” approach to ourselves–thinking that we can “whip ourselves into shape.” Kristin shows us that we really don’t have to beat ourselves up to change, and she outlines the steps to developing self-compassion. She encourages us that when we show the same kindness, support and encouragement to ourselves that we show others, we will radically change our lives.
Alison Faulkner is a writer, speaker, and “self-proclaimed nonsense dancer,” who knows all about “walking in the messy middle.” She has worked with Fortune 500 companies and has been creating content for over 10 years. She built a business on throwing 900 person female dance parties, and found that the behind the hoopla, she was crashing and burning. When she couldn’t figure out how to scale the business and preserve her sanity, she took a step back and started doing the things she wanted to do. Thus, The Alison Show was born, as well as Alison’s podcast Awesome with Alison and Allison’s Brand School. Now, she’s not ashamed to share the times “she break downs and cries under her desk, the times she fails, the times she wants to quit.” Even after a recent car accident, Alison has been pushing through the pain to embrace possibility. Alison’s mantra is: Only you can be you, and you’re already as awesome as you need to be.
Amy Moffett Brown is the bubbly co-host of the wildly popular Bobby Bones Radio Show that airs out of Nashville, Tennessee. At first blush, Amy looks like she has it all–fun job, happy family, partner in successful non-profits. Amy’s wins in life came from broken places that she turned into good–from her Mom’s difficult battle with cancer, to her burden for the impoverished people of Haiti. Jessica and Amy talk about the bravery it takes to actually make lemonade from lemons when your heart is broken, and how simply “asking” in regards to opportunity is a risk we all need to take more often.
Our guests this week epitomize the heart of friendship, determination and courage. Patrick Gray & Justin Skeesuck have been friends, literally, since birth, having been born in the same hospital merely 36 hours apart. When Justin was diagnosed in his early 20’s with a degenerative muscular disease, although they no longer lived in the same city, Patrick was at the ready to support and help as he could. Their mantra for their friendship centers around intentionality, and if the other person has a need, desire or dream, they are there for each other to support and facilitate it. When Justin, now wheelchair bound, voiced his desire to make a trek across Spain through the Camino de Santiago, Patrick didn’t hesitate to show up and see how they could make this dream a reality together. They share the details of this incredible journey (the inspiration for their book “I’ll Push You”) and how they look at “fear as an opportunity,” while following their hearts in friendship, instead of letting logistics get in the way.
Jeremy Cowart is an award winning photographer, artist and entrepreneur, having been named “Most Influential Photographer on the Internet” by Huffington Post, Forbes and Yahoo in 2014. Jeremy’s mission in life is to “explore the intersection of creativity and empathy.” He has published four books and is a sought-after speaker, having presented at TEDx, the United Nations and creative conferences across the country. He shares about an idea that was so big, he wasn’t sure he was supposed to pursue it, and then how, at every turn, the idea kept coming back to him; along with clear signs and the means to make it happen. If you’ve ever pivoted from what you thought you were called to in order to do something completely different, you’ll love hearing what Jeremy has to say about the “normality” of insecurity and doubt, and moving forward despite of it.
This week’s conversation features Jessica chatting with her friend Rachel Hollis, the founder of Chic Media, whose most recent book, Girl Wash Your Face, has been a blockbuster best-seller. Rachel gives insight into what it takes to build a business, and the time she’s had to move, shift, and change to accommodate new directions and initiatives. Rachel and Jessica share their perspectives on “going all in” even when there’s a chance you might fall on your face. They reiterate the value of having a key group of close friends/confidantes, the power of a supportive “tribe,” and the satisfaction of building community that lifts each other up during all of our wins and losses.
Jessica Kim started her first business in college, where she made baked goods in her dorm room. When a professor there told her she was “onto something,” Jessica hit the ground running. Having just one person believe in her was the spark she needed to turn this side venture into a full-fledged business. After growing “Jessica’s Wonders” into a major company that was distributed in nearly 500 stores, Jessica sold the company and kept forging her entrepreneurial path. She shares how she went on to start two other successful businesses and shows how she was able to take a great idea and create businesses through various startup tactics. For anyone who is looking to turn their vision into a reality, she gives us five practical and accessible ways to raise money to finance your dream, and how the power of believing in yourself and aligning yourself with others who share your vision is key to a satisfying and successful business.
Mary Marantz is an author, a speaker and a top photographer. She and her husband were named one of the top 15 wedding photographers in the world, according to Profoto. They have also been featured in publications including Martha Stewart, Style Me Pretty, and more. Mary shares her story of grit and figuring out where she belonged. Growing up from humble means in a West Virginia coal mining country, she eventually ended up at Yale Law School. As she navigated this unknown terrain, walking alongside others who seemed sure of their paths toward law and education, Mary felt that she was made for something different. Despite offers right out of college for law jobs that paid 6 figures, Mary decided to “leap and believed the net would appear.” That leap eventually led to the highly successful photography business she and her husband run today. Mary’s conversation with Jessica about their respective “going scared” moments will challenge us all to question the stories we may tell ourselves that keep us from pursuing our dreams.
Michelle McKinney defines herself as a “Dream Architect.” She has dedicated her life to helping women design construct, and bring their dreams to life, building off her own experiences with insecurities and doubts and moving to confidence and assuredness of her calling. She encourages us to “not settle for the known,” but to be bold in our moves toward the “right things” for our lives—ready to embrace failures and learn from them.
Bob Goff, author of the breakaway bestseller Love Does, is an encourager, a teacher, a ”recovering lawyer,” and the Hon. Consul to Uganda. After practicing law for 25 years (he declared that he was the only lawyer that wore a Micky Mouse watch) he gave up his law firm to pursue writing and speaking full time. Along the way he has connected with others who are on their own adventures, and is driven to help others unlock their potential to love and be loved greater. Bob isn’t interested in agendas, he’s interested in getting past them and being super real. Feeling stuck? Be inspired by Bob to get “unstuck” and find power in being present and available to life and to those around you. His new book is Everybody Always.
Happy International Women’s Day! To celebrate the social, economic, cultural and political achievement of women, we invited Roopa Mehta to join us on this special bonus episode of the Going Scared Podcast. Roopa is the CEO of Sasha, an organization that creates meaningful opportunities for artisan groups in rural areas throughout all of India. She and a group of activists came together because of a deep love for their craft and textile traditions. They understand how vulnerable their communities are and were, and that they required intervention. They devised a plan to get market success, development opportunities and gave artisans the tools to be able to run their own businesses; for themselves, their families, their communities, and for the future of their children. Her story will inspire you as we celebrate her accomplishments, today, along with so many women who have made incredible strides to make the world a better place, on International Women’s Day.
Emily Ley is a wife, mom and entrepreneur. After quitting her stressful corporate job in hopes of starting her own business, Emily found that she had worked herself into even more stress. After conceiving and creating the wildly popular, success came and the demands for her time pressed in even harder. Emily shares how she chose to simplify–using the tenets she had preached to others about paring back and living for what matters most–in her own life. She and Jessica talk about what it looks like when we’re more deliberate with how we spend our time, and the dreaded “no,” word that each of them had to embrace in a new way in order to claim margin in their lives.
A wise person once said; “There are four words that can often mean the difference between the fear of failure and the courage to try – I BELIEVE IN YOU.” Jenny McGee, of the Starfish Project, takes that message to the women she serves in East Asia who are exploited and trafficked; and empowers them to begin new lives. Daily, she goes into the brothels of the city and offers an alternative for women who have either been forced into trafficking, or felt like they had no other options. Through education, counseling, and economic solutions, the Starfish Project is transforming lives and restoring hope to exploited women. Jenny also shares what it’s like to say “‘yes,’ without knowing the rest,” in answering the call to help women in the most desperate of situations, and how she finds her resolve through strong mentors and the support of her family.
This episode finds Jessica talking with her good friend Jen Hatmaker. Jen is a speaker and author, whose latest book Of Mess & Moxie, debuted at #2 on the New York Times Bestseller List. Jessica and Jen both have platforms where they encourage women to live out their dreams and lift each other up in the process. They discuss why it is so vital that we cheer each other on and how there’s plenty of space for us all to succeed. They also discuss the courage it takes to live outside your own “echo chambers,” and that taking the first steps toward your purpose may be hard, but “they are the ones that will lead you all the way home.”
Longing to be more efficient with your time AND make meaningful time for yourself, and for those you love? Today’s guest is on a mission to retrieve our minds from distraction, and to help us restore true connection in our workplaces and in our relationships. Curt Steinhorst is the CEO of Focuswise, a company whose goal is to equip people and organizations to overcome the challenges of our constantly technologically connected lives and workplaces. Curt unpacks all the issues we have with technology, including the expectations to always be “on,” battling the feeling that we’re not doing enough, and addiction to “escaping” through our phones. He lays out steps to help us reclaim what really matters, and encourages us to put technology in its place to enhance our lives; not rule it.
This week, Jessica visits with Mica May, the CEO of May Designs, which specializes in custom stationery, notebooks, gift items, clothing and more. Mica shares how she got her start as a “solo-preneur,” and how she moved to a team environment as an entrepreneur. For those of you who may be feeling like you have to “go it alone,” whether you’re starting a new project, business or just a life change/circumstance, Jessica and Mica lay out the benefits of looking to others for support and encouragement for all the things we’re chasing.
We kick off our very first episode of The Going Scared Podcast with a guest that perfectly defines what it means to “Go Scared.” Jalia Motavu is a Ugandan artisan and entrepreneur who started her business seven years ago. Despite tough times, financial hardships and discouragement, she persevered and providentially, she crossed paths with Jessica, who herself was taking a huge risk starting her own business. The two women discuss the courage, faith and fortitude it took for them to believe in their dreams and to trust and depend on each other as they stepped into the unknown; and how they now consider each other “sisters” on a mission to change the world.